1kellek1974 said at 2:25 am on February 21st, 2009:
Omigawd, I’m in a public online feud with someone. All I need now is a sex tape, a fragrance line, release a single, and adopt a Romanian baby and I’ll be famous too. I think I’ll Digg this link, Blip a song about it, and post on my blog about it -which will all feed back to Twitter through Friend Feed. I also joined a discussion group on FB about etiquette and explained the situation,so hopefully I can learn what I did wrong. LOL, thanks for the notoriety and sorry we can’t be “friends” as this is the kind of thing my friends really enjoy.
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miconian said at 7:05 am on February 21st, 2009:
Hardly a feud, and you make a good point. Why did I put a link to Facebook on my blog, if I didn’t want to be friended by readers? I guess I thought that I’d only be friended by readers who actually know me from some other context.
Similarly, I’m always surprised, and somewhat wary, when a new Twitter follower shows up, even though I have a link to my Twitter account posted in several places.
I think it just shows that there are a whole lot of different “cultures” — maybe some differences are generational — on FB and Twitter, and each may have a different understanding of what is normal behavior, and what is odd or weird. For example, I occasionally get IMs from people who want to “chat” though I mostly use IM for work. To them, that isn’t weird, but to me it is. I also am with @miconian in that I don’t usually friend people I don’t know from another context, or at least know of… through a professional context.
4kellek1974 said at 12:32 pm on February 21st, 2009:
I would love to read an article about this kind of thing wouldn’t you?
I know that when I hit the request button, I didn’t add a note explaining why I was requesting – I seem to remember that, as the send was happening, I thought it odd I missed the “send a personal message.” Would it have a made a difference if I said “Hey, found your blog, we have similar interests, I really like the way you think, I am friends with several creative and interesting people and you would really fit in?” Maybe not, but we’d never be having this discussion either.
There are people I very much admire, and who are very much more in the public eye, that have accepted friend requests. Some use it as just another marketing tool – just as they do their MySpace and Twitter. Some actual post their daily lives but don’t really respond to their thousands of friends. I was so annoyed with one person who twittered every 5 seconds (which then fed their FB profile) that I dropped them.
Then there are a couple of people, that are up-and-coming in their field, that really appreciate early fan support and feedback. I’m also trying to do something creative so I to like surround myself with that energy and support. Most everyone loves the networking and helping each other find and discover new talents so it really isn’t a big deal where or who you are if you have the right personality and goals. Again – with no note – it was my faux paux to think you’d know this was how I also use FB. I’d been on such a charmed and good karma journey with FB, I just assumed everyone creative used FB the same way. ASS out of ME, in front of U, sorry.
That’s my experience and where others also might be coming from, thanks for listening and replying.
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miconian said at 5:33 pm on February 21st, 2009:
kellek, I’m not offended, and there’s no need to apologize.
Pamela, you’re right, it’s a sort of “cultural” misunderstanding. I admit that I am ripe fodder for this type of misunderstanding, since I work in, and write about, online marketing and social media. Most people in that category are trying to make as many online “friends” as possible.
Omigawd, I’m in a public online feud with someone. All I need now is a sex tape, a fragrance line, release a single, and adopt a Romanian baby and I’ll be famous too. I think I’ll Digg this link, Blip a song about it, and post on my blog about it -which will all feed back to Twitter through Friend Feed. I also joined a discussion group on FB about etiquette and explained the situation,so hopefully I can learn what I did wrong. LOL, thanks for the notoriety and sorry we can’t be “friends” as this is the kind of thing my friends really enjoy.
Hardly a feud, and you make a good point. Why did I put a link to Facebook on my blog, if I didn’t want to be friended by readers? I guess I thought that I’d only be friended by readers who actually know me from some other context.
Similarly, I’m always surprised, and somewhat wary, when a new Twitter follower shows up, even though I have a link to my Twitter account posted in several places.
I think it just shows that there are a whole lot of different “cultures” — maybe some differences are generational — on FB and Twitter, and each may have a different understanding of what is normal behavior, and what is odd or weird. For example, I occasionally get IMs from people who want to “chat” though I mostly use IM for work. To them, that isn’t weird, but to me it is. I also am with @miconian in that I don’t usually friend people I don’t know from another context, or at least know of… through a professional context.
I would love to read an article about this kind of thing wouldn’t you?
I know that when I hit the request button, I didn’t add a note explaining why I was requesting – I seem to remember that, as the send was happening, I thought it odd I missed the “send a personal message.” Would it have a made a difference if I said “Hey, found your blog, we have similar interests, I really like the way you think, I am friends with several creative and interesting people and you would really fit in?” Maybe not, but we’d never be having this discussion either.
There are people I very much admire, and who are very much more in the public eye, that have accepted friend requests. Some use it as just another marketing tool – just as they do their MySpace and Twitter. Some actual post their daily lives but don’t really respond to their thousands of friends. I was so annoyed with one person who twittered every 5 seconds (which then fed their FB profile) that I dropped them.
Then there are a couple of people, that are up-and-coming in their field, that really appreciate early fan support and feedback. I’m also trying to do something creative so I to like surround myself with that energy and support. Most everyone loves the networking and helping each other find and discover new talents so it really isn’t a big deal where or who you are if you have the right personality and goals. Again – with no note – it was my faux paux to think you’d know this was how I also use FB. I’d been on such a charmed and good karma journey with FB, I just assumed everyone creative used FB the same way. ASS out of ME, in front of U, sorry.
That’s my experience and where others also might be coming from, thanks for listening and replying.
kellek, I’m not offended, and there’s no need to apologize.
Pamela, you’re right, it’s a sort of “cultural” misunderstanding. I admit that I am ripe fodder for this type of misunderstanding, since I work in, and write about, online marketing and social media. Most people in that category are trying to make as many online “friends” as possible.